It’s Pride Month, So I’m finally getting around to posting your AMA questions

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I know everyone’s probably thinking: what’s Tyler been up to and where’s his update to the AMA for TDOV? Ok – no one’s been thinking any of that. So part of my new year’s resolution this year was to find more ways to be more visible and to help my community and as part of doing so, I’ve been a little less present here. I’ve joined the board of directors for Point of Pride, which as been everything I hoped for and more.

But I did want to circle back to some of the questions I got on TDOV, my answers and whatnot, some of which produced some interesting and thought-provoking chatter on my Facebook and gave me a bit to continue to think about in the future.

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Updates, Changes and Help Wanted

#TransForTheHolidays

The first thing you’ll likely notice is that we’ve moved the website away from Tyler’s personal blog and into a stand-alone page. It’s still under construction, so if you notice anything particularly wacky, we’d appreciate a heads up. We did move the 2016 content over and linked from his site to here, but let’s get down to what this is really about.

We do currently have a survey open looking for suggestions for 2017. But more important even than that:

We’re looking for help in several areas!

Non Profit Status – We’re currently looking for help from people with experience starting nonprofit organizations. I’ve started the bylaws and constitution, but anyone that’s willing to help draft and finalize these would be welcome – even if you’re not interested or able to stay on the board long term.

Board Positions – We are looking for (at least) 3 other board members:…

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Transgender Day of Visibility 2017

Today, March 31st, is Transgender Day of Visibility. And more than any other year, I feel like my willingness and ability to be visible is particularly important. In the wake of many of the current administration’s changes – rescinding orders protecting LGBT people from employment discrimination, appointments that have long histories of discrimination against ANY minorities, bathroom bills popping up like flowers this spring…and the rumors. And I know you can’t quite put stock in rumors, but regardless of that, they’re on everyone in the community’s radar – and what scares me most about that is that the kids are listening.

Every LGBT-oriented suicide hotline is reporting increased calls since the election, and spikes with each new policy or appointment that marginalizes our community. EIGHT trans people have been killed so far in 2017. Most of them trans women of color. And that’s just the reported ones. How many are being swept aside because they were closeted, or even just out right misreported by police and media.

So for those of us fortunate enough to be able to be visible, we have an obligation to those who can’t to stand up for us all. I’ve said many times that the root of hate will always be ignorance and the cure for ignorance is education. Most people have either never met a trans person, or don’t know that they have.

So as I’ve done in years past, I’m hosting a bit of an “Ask Me Anything” session. Nothing is “rude”. Nothing is “off limits”. Nothing is “too far”. Ask me however you want – email, Facebook, Twitter, my blog, call me, text me, use this. Feel free to share.

And when it’s all said and done, I’ll post all the questions, and answers anonymously here for people to see.

Til Next Time,

Tyler

 

03/31/2017 – Rocking my #PointOfPrideTDOV shirt.

 

 

Pre-T – 02/2015 – See below for present-day comparison

 

 

03/30/2017 – 2 years of T and a lot of gym time.

 

 

Yes – I took a gym selfie. 03/30/2017

 

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Coolest mother in law ever – being an ally for trans rights.
My wife – being supportive as ever. #Ally
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The ever-so-lovely Kelli – another ally

#TransForTheHolidays: End of Season Thoughts and Observations

 

The 2016 #TransForTheHolidays Season has come to an end. We couldn’t be happier with the response. For a project that was conceived quickly one day at work right before Thanksgiving, I never imagined the project getting so big, so fast. I never anticipated the support I’d get, both from friends and strangers. And more than all of that, I never imagined the way this project would affect me. People came to me in their time of need and that is incredibly humbling – I can only hope that I have helped them. I found myself attached to their stories, when they told them; like I was catching up with an old friend. I found myself wondering about the rest of their lives, worrying for their safety and searching everywhere for that one special item they asked for. There are so many feelings I have about this project and can’t wait for more in 2017. Let me break some things down about this year’s project. Continue reading #TransForTheHolidays: End of Season Thoughts and Observations

#TransForTheHolidays Closed for 2016 Season

Just a quick update, and some more details later. We’ve closed the survey for 2016 to focus on getting all of the care packs out by Christmas this year. We received 35 responses from 17 states, but we’re still working on getting statistics out to update thoroughly on all three fronts. We do have two packages on our way back to us because we didn’t address them properly (totally our fault), so we’re working on getting that fixed.

We currently have over half the packages out, and we’re still looking for any last minute help covering shipping costs, you can donate via paypal. Even a dollar helps offset the costs.

Check out and follow our Facebook Page for some up to the minute details and some neat info graphics about the packages we’ve sent.

Until next time,

Tyler

#TransForTheHolidays Pictures!

We’ve gotten our first packs boxed up, labeled and I’ll be dropping them off tomorrow morning before work.

Some are on here, but click on over to the Facebook Page to see the whole collection.

Also, if you’re interested in donating to help with shipping costs – we’ve set up a PayPal for that. Without further adieu, a few of our pictures from tonight.

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#TransForTheHolidays: Last Call for 2016

Wow. So first, what a response. We were lucky enough to be shared by Point of Pride and our response quadrupled in a few hours. We are coming up on the deadline to have items shipped to arrive by Christmas 2016. While this isn’t strictly a Christmas program, we are hoping to have the packs mailed by 12/21/2016 to have them at people’s doorsteps by Christmas. That being said, let me proceed with the area-specific updates.

Donate: The Amazon Wishlist is still up and I broke down and set up a PayPal Account to help offset shipping costs. I’m working on some updates to it to reflect better what we have and what we’re still looking for. Gift cards would be awesome at this point. If you’d like, you can email e-gift cards to TransForTheHolidays@gmail.com. If your donation doesn’t make it in time to get into a 2016 gift pack, don’t worry: it will NOT go to waste. Leftovers and late arrivals will be stored for 2017, or some possible other projects #TransForTheHolidays hopes to do in 2017. Early in the year, we’re going to be working on becoming an official non-profit organization and expanding our base. So don’t you worry. We will be putting everything to good use.

Ask For Help: The survey is still up! Please have your responses in by the end of this week so we can have you a pack by Christmas. We’ll be keeping the survey open through the end of the year, then closing it to focus on coming back even stronger in 2017. We’ve been getting a lot of requests for binders and packers. I’m still looking for resources for people in the packer department, but if you’re looking for a binder, head over to Point of Pride‘s binder give away program and get yourself on their waiting list. How long it takes depends on demand and sizing, since they’re donation based. But they’ll help you as fast as they can.

Signal Boost: Keep sharing. Keep using #TransForTheHolidays. Don’t forget to make the post public so everyone can see it. Finally, follow our new Facebook Page for ongoing updates about 2017 plans and documentation of our shenanigans in kicking off a non-profit. It’s a little barebones right now, but thanks to a friend far artsier than I, we will soon have a totally kickass logo. And we’ll post pictures of the care packs going together.

Next update will include pictures of the mayhem that is Melissa and I packing boxes for shipment. We forgot the post office closes early on Satuday, so we didn’t pick up boxes today, but we have 8 out of 27 packs ready to roll and another 5-7 just waiting on an item or two.

Until next time, much love!
Tyler

#TransForTheHolidays Update

Hey everyone,

Just a quick update about the status of the project!

Donations: We’ve been getting donations, mostly from friends and family, but it will cover our requests for the time being. I’ve set up an Amazon Wishlist with ideas for items we’ll need for care packs. If there’s something you’d like to give that’s not on the list, or you can’t quite manage the bulk packs I have listed, send an email to TransForTheHolidays@gmail.com and I’ll help you get something to us. I have tried to select companies that have shown support for the LGBT community in general and trans people in particular. Many of the products are Procter & Gamble, the parent company behind Secret. We’re also planning to get products we don’t get from Amazon primarily at Target, as they’ve chosen to stand by our community despite boycotts and backlash.

Ask for Help: We’ve gotten a few responses, which has been awesome. We’re going to be getting our first few care packs together and out this week. If you need help, please fill out the brief survey and we’ll be happy to do what we can to help you out. If there’s something in particular that you need or are having trouble getting, let us know and we’ll do our best. For those of you that have already asked for help: I just want you to know that I know how hard it can be to ask for help and I think you’re the bravest people on the planet. You’re loved.

Signal Boost: Keep sharing the message! So far it’s mostly been friends or friends of friends, but I’m starting to see people looking from all over, so I know the word’s getting out. Help me help people this holiday season. Keep posting, and using #TransForTheHolidays to get the signal out. Set your post to public on social media so everyone can share it. We’ve been talking with a big non-profit that has experience executing these types of projects in hopes of a partnership and possible expansion into a year-round program. I’m looking forward to being able to share that news with you when we know more.

The main page for the project is here: #TransForTheHolidays, but I link back to these updates, too.

Much love,
Tyler

Community Support Project: #TransForTheHolidays

As many of you know, the holidays are a tough time for trans people. For some it means going home to a family that doesn’t respect their names or pronouns, and for many, it means not having a home to go home to. The NTCE  estimates that as many as 20% of trans people have experienced homelessness at some point in their lives, but this year, I’m hoping to ease that burden, at least a little, for some people. That’s why I’m starting this project. I don’t know how successful it will be, but I’m hoping to get at least a little support and help out at least a person or two.

#TransForTheHolidays hopes to send out some care packages to homeless, couch surfing, closeted, in a shelter, or other trans people that might not be looking forward to the holidays. What I need is your help. I don’t personally know any trans people in these sorts of situations, so here’s what you can do:

Donate: It’s going to be difficult for me to accept monetary donations, but if the demand is high enough I’ll set up a pay pal or something. The easiest way would be to purchase something off the Amazon Wish List. Once received, I’ll either use the supplies to assemble care packages or forward restaurant gift cards to people that might not otherwise know where their next meal is coming from. I’ll even let you know exactly how I used your donation, if you’d like. Email Address: Trans For the Holidays <transfortheholidays@gmail.com>. I was careful to select products from companies with a history of LGBT inclusion, especially Procter & Gamble, the parent company behind Secret.

 

Signal Boost: Sometimes people can’t afford to spend money. I get that, so help me get the word out. Use #TransForTheHolidays to get the word out. Sign someone up that may be afraid to ask for help (packages will be discreet so as to not out someone) – sign up yourself and we’ll send you one. Sometimes it’s just nice to know someone’s thinking of you.

 

Ask for Help: If you need help, just sign up using this form. Like I noted above, the packages will be discreet and your address, email address and phone number will not be used for anything but sending you a care package. The phone number is only required if you’re going to pick up your package from a post office and we’ll get something out to you – no judgement, no questions.

All of this information has been permanently posted as a page on my blog as well: #TransForTheHolidays

Happy Holidays and Much Love,

Tyler
Edit: after some feedback from the community, I took out the send a package option for the time being. There’s no sure fire way to verify that volunteers for this will be discreet in their mailings. If there’s a way I can bring this back safer for the recipients, I will.