It’s Pride Month, So I’m finally getting around to posting your AMA questions

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I know everyone’s probably thinking: what’s Tyler been up to and where’s his update to the AMA for TDOV? Ok – no one’s been thinking any of that. So part of my new year’s resolution this year was to find more ways to be more visible and to help my community and as part of doing so, I’ve been a little less present here. I’ve joined the board of directors for Point of Pride, which as been everything I hoped for and more.

But I did want to circle back to some of the questions I got on TDOV, my answers and whatnot, some of which produced some interesting and thought-provoking chatter on my Facebook and gave me a bit to continue to think about in the future.

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Community Support Project: #TransForTheHolidays

As many of you know, the holidays are a tough time for trans people. For some it means going home to a family that doesn’t respect their names or pronouns, and for many, it means not having a home to go home to. The NTCE  estimates that as many as 20% of trans people have experienced homelessness at some point in their lives, but this year, I’m hoping to ease that burden, at least a little, for some people. That’s why I’m starting this project. I don’t know how successful it will be, but I’m hoping to get at least a little support and help out at least a person or two.

#TransForTheHolidays hopes to send out some care packages to homeless, couch surfing, closeted, in a shelter, or other trans people that might not be looking forward to the holidays. What I need is your help. I don’t personally know any trans people in these sorts of situations, so here’s what you can do:

Donate: It’s going to be difficult for me to accept monetary donations, but if the demand is high enough I’ll set up a pay pal or something. The easiest way would be to purchase something off the Amazon Wish List. Once received, I’ll either use the supplies to assemble care packages or forward restaurant gift cards to people that might not otherwise know where their next meal is coming from. I’ll even let you know exactly how I used your donation, if you’d like. Email Address: Trans For the Holidays <transfortheholidays@gmail.com>. I was careful to select products from companies with a history of LGBT inclusion, especially Procter & Gamble, the parent company behind Secret.

 

Signal Boost: Sometimes people can’t afford to spend money. I get that, so help me get the word out. Use #TransForTheHolidays to get the word out. Sign someone up that may be afraid to ask for help (packages will be discreet so as to not out someone) – sign up yourself and we’ll send you one. Sometimes it’s just nice to know someone’s thinking of you.

 

Ask for Help: If you need help, just sign up using this form. Like I noted above, the packages will be discreet and your address, email address and phone number will not be used for anything but sending you a care package. The phone number is only required if you’re going to pick up your package from a post office and we’ll get something out to you – no judgement, no questions.

All of this information has been permanently posted as a page on my blog as well: #TransForTheHolidays

Happy Holidays and Much Love,

Tyler
Edit: after some feedback from the community, I took out the send a package option for the time being. There’s no sure fire way to verify that volunteers for this will be discreet in their mailings. If there’s a way I can bring this back safer for the recipients, I will.

Document Amendments: Consular Report of Birth Abroad

As many of you know from previous posts, I’m an army brat. So I don’t have a state-issued birth certificate; I have a Consular Report of Birth Abroad (FS-545 or FS-240, depending on your birthdate). In the post-election hubbub, it’s given me the impetus to update my documents and I figured I’d post it here to help you guys out if you’re in a similar situation, including the wording I’m using for my affidavit.

If you only have the FS-545, you’ll also need a signed, notarized affidavit stating that the FS-240 form is not in your possession.

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Three Weeks Since Top Surgery

Today marks just over 3 weeks since top surgery. I had the sutures and drains out after about a week. I was having some issues with fluid build up in the right side, which isn’t dangerous from a health stand point, but definitely detrimental from a results stand point. In total, Dr. Leis drained about 100mL of fluid from the right side over about a week. Eventually he injected the right side with a really potent steroid and swished it around and drained it to help discourage the swelling and that seems to have done the trick.

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Fridays from The Men’s Room – 01/29/2016

Monday – There were like 10 people here. Maybe it has to do with the 30″ of snow outside. Most of the conversation was small talk about whether or not we all got dug out of the snow. Something that continues to surprise me is how much more general small talk goes on in the men’s room than ever did in the women’s room. Women are very much get in, get out. I don’t really remember ever hearing women talking in the locker room.

Tuesday – I came at an odd time because I had my preop (!) appointment this morning. There were only a hand full of people there. This time I was the guy that was caught singing embarrassingly (One Direction) in the locker room. Fortunately this didn’t even get me as much as a sideways glance.

Thursday – “Can’t Touch This”. Seriously the men’s room is basically an underwear-clad singing montage. The guys sing way more than the girls even talked.

Friday – Not 100% certain if it’s depression or exhaustion kicking in, but my body told me I needed to skip today, so I did.

Be the Best Gym Bro You can Be

Getting started at the gym is a bitch. There’s the looking like you’re new and don’t know what you’re doing. There’s the actually not knowing what you’re doing. And then for us trans* people there’s the added stress of “which locker room”…”are they looking at me?”

I’m no fitness expert by any means, but I’d like to do what I can to help other people to survive their first trip to the gym.  Continue reading Be the Best Gym Bro You can Be