Three Weeks Since Top Surgery

Today marks just over 3 weeks since top surgery. I had the sutures and drains out after about a week. I was having some issues with fluid build up in the right side, which isn’t dangerous from a health stand point, but definitely detrimental from a results stand point. In total, Dr. Leis drained about 100mL of fluid from the right side over about a week. Eventually he injected the right side with a really potent steroid and swished it around and drained it to help discourage the swelling and that seems to have done the trick.

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Fridays from The Men’s Room – 01/29/2016

Monday – There were like 10 people here. Maybe it has to do with the 30″ of snow outside. Most of the conversation was small talk about whether or not we all got dug out of the snow. Something that continues to surprise me is how much more general small talk goes on in the men’s room than ever did in the women’s room. Women are very much get in, get out. I don’t really remember ever hearing women talking in the locker room.

Tuesday – I came at an odd time because I had my preop (!) appointment this morning. There were only a hand full of people there. This time I was the guy that was caught singing embarrassingly (One Direction) in the locker room. Fortunately this didn’t even get me as much as a sideways glance.

Thursday – “Can’t Touch This”. Seriously the men’s room is basically an underwear-clad singing montage. The guys sing way more than the girls even talked.

Friday – Not 100% certain if it’s depression or exhaustion kicking in, but my body told me I needed to skip today, so I did.

Be the Best Gym Bro You can Be

Getting started at the gym is a bitch. There’s the looking like you’re new and don’t know what you’re doing. There’s the actually not knowing what you’re doing. And then for us trans* people there’s the added stress of “which locker room”…”are they looking at me?”

I’m no fitness expert by any means, but I’d like to do what I can to help other people to survive their first trip to the gym.  Continue reading Be the Best Gym Bro You can Be

Six Months(!) Update and Ten Tips for Switching Locker Rooms

My fortune cookie from work Friday. It’s joined my other fortune in my wallet – “In a gentle way, you can shake the world”

I really feel like I need to get into a better blogging schedule. I’m not seeing my therapist as often and this usually serves as some pretty good “therapy” for me…that and the gym. I think I need to schedule myself some blog time every week just to get thoughts out of my head and down on paper (or cyberspace, as it were).

So first thing’s first – I just passed the 6 month mark on T! In that time, I’ve lost 2 pounds and about 2.5″ off my waist and added 1.75″ to my biceps. This is exciting for me because it’s a lot of progress in the direction that I want to go. The hardest part of this for me has been accepting that I won’t lose weight weight as long as I’m bulking up. It’s a tough mentality change from wanting to see the number on the scale going down, to being ok with it staying the same or even fluctuating up. I’m finally starting to see the body in the mirror that I’ve always imagined when I thought of myself. You have to understand that I’ve been over 200lbs since I was 16 and topped out at 265lbs right before my last knee surgery. I knew then that if I didn’t loose weight I was going to be rolling on teflon and titanium before long (that’s full knee replacement, FYI) and I wasn’t ready for that. Continue reading Six Months(!) Update and Ten Tips for Switching Locker Rooms

And Now for a Total Change of Topic…

I feel like the last week or so has been a whole handful of bizarre updates, so I apologize if this post seems like a lot of skipping around. I’ve been kind of in a funk lately and I think a lot of it has to do with not giving myself therapy time. I haven’t been seeing my therapist as frequently and I, obviously, haven’t been writing as much and that’s caused a lot of internal tension for me. Continue reading And Now for a Total Change of Topic…

Damn It, Irene: Thoughts, Observations and after 2 Months – and pictures, of course

So I’m coming up on the 2 month mark. Pictures, as customary, later this week. I figured I’d take some time and kind of get some thoughts and updated out of the way.

First big news – step one for the legal name change is underway. I’m required to place notice in the paper for 3 weeks so that anyone who would like to object may do so. This is to avoid people changing their name to dodge debt. That first ad ran today, so I should be on my way to getting the name change finalized. I’ve decided on Tyler James. We’re hoping to have that completed soon. The company I work for is splitting into two companies soon and they’ll be reassigning email addresses. I’m hoping to use that as an opportunity to have the right email address. Continue reading Damn It, Irene: Thoughts, Observations and after 2 Months – and pictures, of course